Britney Spears- Ten Things to Consider Before Having Children

What’s the first thing you do when you find yourself in a hole? Stop digging.

You’ve dug a very deep hole and need to get out now. You chose to have two children and become a mother. Your two little boys didn’t choose you, but I’m sure they would love to have you as more than their birth mother. They need a real mother. I don’t doubt that are being cared for, fed, clothed, etc. But that isn’t all that mothers do.

Here is some unsolicited advice. It’s probably a little late but you should read Ten Things to Consider Before Having Children listed here from my book Because Kids Don’t Come With Manuals®: Contemporary Advice for Parents.

Sorry but you wouldn’t get past #1.

10 Things to Consider BEFORE Having Children…

1. Would you want to have you as a parent?
2. Have there been times when you could have been more generous?
3. Do you treat the people that matter in your life as well as you should?
4. Is your relationship with your spouse strong enough to withstand the stress of children?
5. What sacrifices are you willing to make to be able to afford children?
6. What family traditions will you carry on, and what new traditions will you both create together?
7. What is your idea of quality family time?
8. How will you decide how to share family holidays?
9. Do you believe it is your job as a parent to tell a child what to think or how to think?
10. Is there something about your spouse that makes you look forward to becoming a parent, or is there something that has you concerned?

Although childbirth is called labor, the real labor is in raising our children which is 24 hours a day, seven days a week, and 365 days a year for the rest of your life. It is what parents do.

I don’t feel sorry for you, especially as I think about all the single mothers struggling to keep their families together with very little money. You may have great wealth, but you are not rich.

What you need now is a supportive village around you, and it sounds as if you are currently choosing the wrong villagers. You can recover from all of this.

You don’t drown by falling in water; you drown by staying there.

Just realize that it’s not about you – you are mom now.


1 Comment »

  1. Hey,
    I love what you’e doing!
    Don’t ever change and best of luck.

    Raymon W.

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